Accept it or Move on

Have you ever been annoyed with a person until it was unbearable? If you could only change that one thing about a person, the world would be so much better. I'm sure we all have encountered people that we wanted to change. For some of us it could be family, friends, significant others, classmates, or coworkers. We adore the person, and may even love the person, but its one thing (maybe two or three) that annoys you to the core. If only you could change that one thing. You probably have went as far as nagging the person, and trying to convince them to change it. In most cases, the person will not change and it leaves you even more frustrated. Well, let's face it. We simply can't change people. People change because they want to change, and not because we want them  to change. 

Think about it. We do things that I am sure is annoying to others. Do we change just because the next person thinks we should change? There are also some things that we want to change about ourselves that we struggle with changing. Changing is not always easy. This is why we shouldn't try to force change on others. If someone is not who we want them to be or they do things that we don't like we must remember that they have to want to change those things. Would you change just because it was annoying to someone else? So, if you find yourself in a similar situation, you either accept it or move on. 

First, you can choose to accept the person for who they are. Sometimes you have to accept people as a whole, with flaws and all. Keep in mind, we all have flaws and I am sure that you do some annoying things as well. Complaining or getting bent out of shape over it will not help the situation or make it better. It will only have you upset, while the person will continue doing what you are upset over. Instead of focusing on it, accept it and get over it. Don't think about what they do to annoy you, focus on the good things. Don't waste you time thinking that your anger or nagging will change the person or issue. 

Second, you can choose to move on. You have the choice of being around the person. You can choose to cease all dealings with the person or limit them. This means that if you feel that whatever the person is doing is unbearable, you have the choice of whether you want to deal with it. You are not forced to put up with the behavior. So, if you feel that you can't accept it. Move on and prevent the anger, blow ups, and nervous breakdown. 

So, instead of getting upset when someone doesn't change, remember that we are all human and have flaws. You simply can't change people. People change because they want to change. Also, what bothers you may not bother that person. They may enjoy what bothers you. So, instead of getting upset and lashing out or nagging, remember that you can ACCEPT IT or MOVE ON.